is gay in your genes

I don't think being homosexual is in your genes, per se. That would mean that homosexuality would be hereditary. I think that something might happen to you at a young age that made you attracted to the same gender, yes, but not in the case that it is a molecular function.

 

I agree with this.

Or in the other terms, we mimic what we see at a younger age and grow into it as we age. Some may turn to another gender by either rape, past relationships, or just experimenting to find themselves. Whoever said homosexuality is a gene should be shot, because that sounds pretty fictional than realistic.

 

While you aren't born gay, I don't think you have to be influenced to be gay.

Luke made an excellent point in that you don't choose to like your favourite food, or music, or anything. You just do. I believe it's the same being gay. I mean, how many straight people do you know that sat down and thought, 'Why am I straight?' and actually figured out the answer, or said 'Today I'm going to be gay for the day.' It obviously isn't a choice, it's just something you grow into. The brain grows differently for everyone; If it didn't, we'd all be practically the same. So for all we know, homosexual and bisexual people's brains could have just grown differently.
I, myself, am straight as of yet, but if I was asked out by a guy who was my friend I'd probably say yes. After all, gender really doesn't matter in the grand scale of things to me. So ya... I prefer women, but I'm not opposed to going out with men at all.

 

Being gay is no choice your born that way, religion and homophobia may affect what people's opinions are but being gay certainly is not a choice. Being honest I don't think being gay is a huge problem, it's just the way people are born and eventually I'm sure people will come to except it.

 

Hallelujah.
Thank you for...seeing sense...

 

wow, alot of good points were made. i think everyone has potential to be gay. its just a matter of who chooses to act on it or not.

 

Well, I think it's all mental. If you've been turned down so many times, I believe your mind tends to look to the opposite sex. You may not realize it or understand it, but when you come to the realization that you're gay, you accept it. At least that's what I tell myself. I'm bisexual, and I've my heart has been torn to shreds by so many women, I don't trust them anymore. That's what I think, anyway.

 

It takes a lot of guts to admit that. Good for you.

 

I'm not afraid to admit it. It honestly makes me feel better to admit it.

 

I'm bi, but it wasn't anything to do with being turned down by women. It was similar to what happened with you though. When I went through puberty, I was confused about my sexual orientation, but I eventually decided that I was bi. And it was nothing to do with influences, Legacy. Nothing at all influenced me to be bi. It just happened and, as you said Playa, I acepted it once I realized.

Legacy said: There is no such thing as a gay baby.

How do you know?

 

Yes, Legacy. How do you know? What if it's the way your mind is set to develop when your born? What if it's unavoidable?

I think it may also be tied to religious influences. I belong to a religion that maybe a whole 30 people know about in the world. In fact, I was one of the people who helped to create this religion. And, this religion full-on accepts being bi or gay. So... yeah.

 

This is an interesting thread, indeed. Is there any evidence that being gay isn't in your genes?

 

the only "evidence" saying that would be that when a gay couple has a child through a surogate mother, that child would have a 50/50 chance of being gay or not. assuming that it's genetic. but i don't think this is the case. How would that explain how two straight parents have a gay child?

 

i have a question, if you think your gay and you dont want to be, like seriously dont want to be would that be the same thing as denying?

 

Depends. the human mind is a very powerful thing. In a sense one could truly become gay if they really believed that they were. likewise the opposite is also true. one could become straight if they truly belived that they are.

however then you take homophobia into account. one could find that they are gay and be homophobic, then the principle of belife as I stated earlier would not come into effect. homophobia is the rejection or hatred toward the very idea of being gay. If a homophobic person came to find that they themselves were gay it would become a matter of self hatred. in a sense it's a form of acceptance because they would have to accept that they were gay in order to have that self hatred.

 

wow, thats something to think about, well i know im straight so im good and i have no problem with gays either
SO WHERE ALL GAY (happy)

 

Y'know? If you're straight, there should really be no reason for you to have such a well thought-out reason for being gay.... =/

 

I'm straight, but I go to an all boys school. As a result I have many gay friends and I have talked to them about subjects like this in the past. I know what I'm talking about.